How To Move On After A Breakup
Most of us never give a second thought to all the advice floating around on how to deal with breakups until, unfortunately, we experience it ourselves or see a loved one going through a tough time because of it. And even then, we only react negatively to time-tested clichés like, “Time heals all wounds” or “There are plenty of other fish in the sea”. While it’s only natural to feel that no one understands you, it’s not necessarily true! After all, you are not the first person to be nursing a broken heart, not will you be the last. Once you understand that, it should become easier to follow some sane advice on how to move on with your life.
Let it be a Clean Break-up
If you have secret hopes of getting together with your ex again, let go of them. The ideal philosophy should be “Once bitten, twice shy”, at least as far as that one individual is concerned. If your ex is making friendly overtures or trying to reach you through friends, give a clear message that you are not interested in rekindling the romance. Make sure you remove your ex from your contact/friends’ lists on mobile applications and social media.
Cry Your Heart Out
Instead of having bottled-up emotions that may surface later in your life, it’s much simpler to give in to the tears welling up inside you right after the break-up. Whether you want do it alone at night or on a friend’s shoulder is your choice.
Do Not Blame Yourself
Whatever you do, don’t indulge in self-loathing. Remember It takes two to tango. A loving relationship requires efforts and compromises from both sides and you alone cannot be held responsible for all that went wrong with it.
Take Care of Yourself
Don’t use your broken heart as an excuse to overindulge, sleep late or drink and smoke too much. Your body does not deserve this punishment. Make sure to carry on with your daily routine. If anything, let exercising, walking and doing some Yoga and meditation become a part of your daily life. Try relaxing by listening to your favorite music or reading a book. Involve yourself in activities that you find soothing and satisfying.
You are Single Again; Do Not Hesitate to Mingle
Done shedding tears and oh-so-tired of it? It’s time to go out and enjoy your single status. While you may have to push yourself the first few times, and you may even feel guilty about it, socialize you must. Even you will agree that nursing a broken heart is hardly fun and there is no better time than today to face the world again, meet your friends, attend a few parties and plan a short holiday. Who knows, you may even start enjoying doing all the things that you did not have time for when you were in a relationship!
Take it as a Learning Experience
Life has its own way of teaching us lessons and some may not be as enjoyable as others. Take your bad experience in your stride. Once you reach the stage where you can think about your broken relationship with some degree of indifference, or at least with manageable emotions, analyze what went wrong with your relationship. Was it a case of incompatibility, or was one of you expecting too much or taking the other for granted? Be honest and admit where you may have gone wrong. After all, whatever the mistakes, you definitely don’t want to repeat them!
Moving on after a break-up is easier said than done, but with a little support from your loved ones and some sound advice from your well-wishers, you can do it. In the process, you will have learnt some life lessons and, hopefully, become wiser for your trouble.